It's NOT about big boobs:

It's about looking like a woman and feeling like a woman when you are a woman who looks like a little girl.

It's about proportionality. I am a size 0 or XS (although even these are often too big) on top and a size 6 on bottom. You try finding clothes that fit.

It's about the humiliation of the dressing room, where the bust either gapes like the maw of hell or sags all the way down to your waist.

It's about shelling out a lot of money to get my suit jackets altered so I'll look like a professional and not a little girl dressing up in her mother's clothes, and having them still be enormous in the bust (because there's only so much the tailor can do) and having to wear super-padded "false advertising" bras (as I like to call them) in a hopeless attempt to try to fill them out, meanwhile they are still ill-fitting in the bust but fit nice and snug at the waist.

It's about the humiliation of puberty when i only started wearing a bra because everybody else was already wearing them.

It's about the disappointment of puberty, when I was looking so forward to becoming a woman and never did (not to mention the pain of breast growth for so little result).

It's about working hard to look your best but always this one thing is in the way. Exercise is its own reward, and I truly enjoy working out. I also love the results I get, and if I am unhappy with my body I work hard to improve it. There's nothing that I can do about the size of my breasts in the gym (except shrink them even further, if that's possible). I work hard and I feel I deserve to look my best.

It's about self-esteem. Right or wrong, I am self-conscious about my breast size--how can someone with no breasts feel feminine or sexy? I feel good about myself in many ways, and this is one more thing that I would like to feel good about.

It's about being treated like an adult. It's so frustrating to graduate at the top of my class in law school and do great work and still get condescended to because I look like a child.

It's about spoiling myself with something I've wanted for a really long time and have worked hard to be able to get.

I am a small AA (and I don't mean that as a redundancy, I mean I am on the small side of AA). Before you criticize a woman for wanting larger breasts, I am just asking you try to see it from my perspective; if you haven't gone through this you really cannot understand it.

Don't get me wrong, I am so grateful to have this wonderful, healthy body that truly is beautiful. But it is my body and my heart and I want to look and feel my best. I love being a woman, and I want to look like one.

--NiceGirl

Some people might think that breast enhancement of any kind is a silly and shallow subject, based upon nothing but vanity, but they do not realize what it's like to spend hours shopping for bras that don't make you look too flat or pointy, tops that you can actually look half decent in, or bathing suits that make you look somewhat feminine instead of like a 12 year old girl. To me it's no different than people wanting to improve themselves in other ways, such as losing weight for example, and look how popular that is.

Precisely. Thank you so much. My sentiments exactly.
It ISN'T about vanity, or looking like those ridiculously proportioned swimsuit models. And although the media IS shallow, and shouldn't be believed or followed, how can someone feel good about themselves when the attribute given SO MUCH attention is, well, lacking entirely. I've been told to ignore all of the ads and media and people that tell me or insinuate to me that my breasts are inadequate. My question to them has always been "How?" What they seem to miss is the absolute ubiquity of this breast phenomenon. I don't know how they cannot understand. All they have to do is look around and there will be some ad or mention of or insinuation of breasts being absolutely pivotal to the existence of womankind, pretty much no matter where they are. It is laid thick everywhere you go. I can't escape it.

Yet my anxiety over the matter is almost always seen as trivial by others - as though it is all in my head, and that I should easily be able to fix that.

For a long time I felt incredibly ashamed about wanting bigger breasts (feeling ashamed about feeling ashamed. . . what a weight to have to carry!) We women should not be blamed for or ridiculed for feeling the way we do. We deserve (at very least) understanding and empathy. Just as empathy is given to victims of obesity or hair loss or acne - those who may also be made to feel inadequate in today's society. Because our troubles are also legitimate.

It is not superficial. It is about being constantly ridiculed and made to feel inferior - and trying to put an end to that. It is about having that one, well, two body parts that are obviously society's standard for being a woman - even though that standard doesn't at all apply to the natural world. (And you are right, being treated as an adult would be very nice.) It is about feeling good... feeling normal. It is about ridding oneself of this awful feeling that is perpetuated everywhere one goes.

I should add that I also am very grateful for having a healthy body. And there are certainly so many wonderful things in life which are worth acknowledging. I just get very frustrated when so few people seem to understand. . . and when women are scorned at for feeling ashamed of their bodies. It would be nice to somehow reach a new widespread understanding of body image issues, and where the blame should really be placed.

This is absolutely true! I am from Colombia, South America, where most of the women have perfect, curvy bodies, and I live in MIAMI. You can only imagine how many big plastic implants I see a day. I am a A-B cup, too big for A, too small for B. I have never wanted HUGE breasts, I would look silly (I am very thin). However, I have over the past few months become very discouraged. I have yet to find decent clothes or lingerie that ISN'T for busty girls. I am against plastic surgery, yet I am tired of not having enough to fit into anything except a t-shirt!

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Thanks ladies, and REAL BOOB ROCK!

(28-05-2009 07:40 PM)camila Wrote:  Thanks ladies, and REAL BOOB ROCK!

I think most of us here definitely agree with that.